Have you ever stopped to think about the impact of your relationships on your overall physical health? Scientific research over the past several decades has shown unequivocally that high-quality relationships are one of the most important protective factors in preventing disease.
In my last couples therapy blog, I started exploring a common lament that I hear couples make in my office. And that is when one partner turns to the other and says, “You are not the person I married.”
As I explained last time, the realization that your partner is “not the person you married” can be very painful for both partners. But it can also be a critical turning point in your relationship.
It turns out that the statement “You are not the person I married” is grounded in some myths about what it means to be in intimate relationship. In this blog, I am going to talk about the second of these myths.
Over the past ten years, I’ve worked with thousands of couples and a statement that I’ve heard over and over in my couples therapy office is when one partner turns to the other and says, “You are not the person I married.” What should you do if you feel this way about your partner?
One of the problems I see play out in my office over and over again is when couples get into an argument and they just can’t seem to make headway. I talked about this in my last couples therapy blog and today, I want to go into more depth about this problem.
One particular problem I see being played out in my office over and over again is when a couple gets into a fight about something that happened in the past because they don’t remember it the same way. The biggest mistake people make in that situation is that they are trying to figure out exactly what happened.
The couples who come to my office for couples therapy are constantly wondering, “What is the secret to creating a lasting relationship?”
The answer is learning to create a relationship that’s based on mutuality. So today, in Part II of How to Build a Lasting Relationship with Your Partner, I’ll be teaching you more about this important principle so you can put it to work for you in your relationship.
Couples often ask me, “What is the secret to creating a lasting relationship?”
The answer is learning to create a relationship that’s based on mutuality. So, today I’m going to talk to you about what mutuality is, why you need it, and what the barriers are to creating it for your relationship.